Firstly, a good friend of mine don't seems to take advise, but is very willing to tell ppl what they had done wrong and should change. This person felt only made one mistake. And this person, even when being told the truth, refuse to admit it, but say will look into it. Hope this person don't realise the truth too late.
Secondly, another event that happen made me wonder what gave another person in my life the assumption that i knew all things, or the things that she thought i knew.
She thinks i was close with the other guy and his group of friends. Bad time in relationship. Well, what to do... some relationships are good, some are not. There are always appointed ones.
But in this bad one that she's going thru, she thinks i know what happen. I think partly because there was one point, and only one point of time, in an event, i had contact with this guy a bit more(hope i was wrong). Then it so happen i was shock that one of his friend actually reads my blog and got her new blog link. I wonder where the link came from. I din much ppl to link me. Anyway i suspect he got it thru my blog and left her a short, but to me is a silly and unecessary message.
Then they got closer contact for a short while and again something bad happen in the mist of it. Then she ask me... ' i think u know what happen...' to which i said yes.... because i read her blog which i saw from another person's blog links. But details i don't know. Then she got upset. i'm like... 'what happen..?'.
I honestly would appreciate if she could directly ask me. She can ask qns like... 'did you reveal my blog to him', 'did he tell you anything directly or indirectly about this' and things like that.
If i did not tell the truth, then it would be my fault. I would be guilty. But if what she conclude comes from indirect qns to find out things (an example would be the above when she ask that i should know what happen), then she may get an inaccurate conclusion; just like what had happen.
Please know one fact, i don't have that good IQ and EQ but i'm working on it. So don't give me hints or ask or find out things indirectly. I sincerely appreciate it if she can ask me clearly and directly. This is always the best way to prevent any mis-understanding.
So this is true... if your brother sin against you, leave your sacrifice at the altar and go confront and settle the issue. If we find the person offending us, then we should go approach them directly. Don't beat around the bush. Use direct clear approach. We may just realise things may not be what it seems.
But we may be right that this person has indeed done wrong against us. If he had admit and change, good! Saved him from error. If not, let God deal with him. Its out of our hands.
I hope the guy did not try to get something out of this, in creating this wrong impression between me and her. Even if he had suspected such wrong impression had happen without his knowing, i hope he would clear the air.
Ever heard 'sin of omission'?
She had kept me further away from her circle.
hmm...
I lift it in God's hands.
Let me change where i had gone wrong. Do what is beyond me. Help me in this situation oh God.. Because i love You. i have no wish to hurt anyone You love, anyone who is Yours.
In You, i trust.
i'm home...